The Power & Potential in Self Love

From the host, Miriam Buttu:

Self love has always been one of those elusive concepts for me. The kind that I can understand on a logical level, but when it comes to integrating it…I realize I don’t understand it at all.

I’ve always wanted to be better at it, and so when I met Keidi at an event, I knew that I absolutely HAD to have her on the podcast. Because if I want to get better at it, you probably do too.

Keidi Janz is a speaker and a Self Love Coach. She works with clients one-on-one who find themselves stuck or looking for a change to take a wholesome approach and create a vision of the life they want to live.

She believes that the magic in all of us lies in our authentic stories, in the things that truly ignite the joy in our lives, and that it’s always our job to pursue them. She is a public speaker and workshop host for local events and organizations covering on topics of self love, authenticity and living our dreams.

Keidi has been quoted in articles in Business Insider, Brit + CO, and various other publications, and I am just so excited to introduce you to her.

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Overcoming your fear of Public Speaking

I had the pleasure of being one of the teachers for Speakers Bootcamp held by Women and Color at OCAD University. I spoke on mindfulness and building confidence to overcome the fear of public speaking. You already know these topics are near and dear to me. There were folks in the room who traveled from all over North America to learn and elevate their public speaking skills. I’m so grateful to have participated. Women and Color creates opportunities to amplify subject matter experts from underrepresented groups in tech. They have a listing of over 500+ diverse speakers, it’s 2019 y’all you got no more excuses for all white and/or male speakers at your events. The next Speakers Bootcamp is on Aug 24-25 and you should run and apply if the thought of speaking on stage excites you :)

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The practice of self-love Podcast Interview

Thank you Lean into Curiosity for this interview.

Here is what Deanna of Lean into Curiosity had to say “This conversation changed the trajectory of my journey! While chatting with Keidi Janz I was in the midst of a major decision, a very impactful change in my life. She helped me understand the importance of giving myself permission to just be! Also to consistently check in with myself without being concerned with the why or how of my feelings! Through this conversation I really got a solid understanding of how to love myself through any situation and its outcome. I’ve heard Oprah, Brene Brown and Marie Forleo all say things similar to this message, but that’s exactly why I created this podcast-to learn from relatable women who are just a few steps ahead in their journey. This stuff resonates on a soul level!!”

As a self-love coach Keidi Janz shares what it takes to practice more compassion and love for yourself.  She is helping us change the stories we tell ourselves and encourages taking the time to just sit and check in with how you’re feeling without having know the why.  This incredible conversation encouraged me to love myself first and I hope it does the same for you.

TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE:

  1. The beauty of being human is having multiple interests.

  2. The way you build you intuition muscle is to take time and just sit.

  3. Meditation teaches us to be aware of our thoughts.

  4. When we’re aware of our thoughts we can change negative thoughts.

  5. When we work from the “why” mindset we’re searching and scrambling so you don’ have to always know the why or the how.

Mentioned in this episode:

Book Recommendations:
You are a Badass Series by Jen Sincero

Louise Hay

Wayne Dyer

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Mindfulness and Confidence at Speakers Bootcamp

On Saturday I had the pleasure of being one of the teachers for Speakers Bootcamp held by Women and Color at OCAD University. I spoke on mindfulness and building confidence to overcome the fear of public speaking. You already know these topics are near and dear to me. There were folks in the room who traveled from all over North America to learn and elevate their public speaking skills. I’m so grateful to have participated. Women and Color creates opportunities to amplify subject matter experts from underrepresented groups in tech. They have a listing of over 500+ diverse speakers, it’s 2019 y’all you got no more excuses for all white and/or male speakers at your events. Their next Speakers Bootcamp is on Aug 24-25 and you should run and apply if the thought of speaking on stage excites you :)

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How to Master the Art of Dining Solo

For the full article published on Brit + Co

Treat the experience as a self-care activity. After dining on her own for the first time last year, self-love advocate and photographer Keidi Janz is a master at dining solo and treats it as a self-care experience all about enjoying your own company. “Treat it as a time to spend with yourself without the distractions of sharing the meal with someone else and having to engage in conversation,” she notes. Along with dressing up (for yourself!) and finding a place or cuisine that you want to try, “Go ahead and order all your favorite things, and get yourself some dessert too if the experience feels [like] a celebration. That’s the beauty of dining by yourself — you do not have to split appetizers or dessert with anyone else.” Well said!

Be There Jack.org

I was invited to attend the launch party for Be There - a game changing resource on supporting someone who is struggling with mental health.

You know how they say create what you needed when you were young?! I feel this is exactly the amazing resource Jack.org has created.
While sharing helplines and fundraising efforts is important we can also play a major part in someone’s life by being there when we notice they are going through a difficult time. That can be hard to navigate but the Be There initiative has outlined 5 golden rules with video examples 🤗Whether there’s someone in your life that you can be there for right now or not - I’m going to encourage you to visit the website and familiarize yourself. Just be there ♥️

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12 ways to love yourself

One of my favorite teachers has been Louise Hay, her work has always focused on our relationships with ourselves. Here are 12 Commandments to help you learn how to love yourself by Louise Hay

1. Stop All Criticism

Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.

2. Forgive Yourself

Let the past go. You did the best you could at the time with the understanding, awareness, and knowledge that you had. Now you are growing and changing, and you will live life differently.

3. Don’t Scare Yourself

Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It's a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure, and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.

4. Be Gentle and Kind and Patient

Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.

5. Be Kind to Your Mind

Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don't hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.

6. Praise Yourself

Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.

7. Support Yourself

Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.

8. Be Loving to Your Negatives

Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So lovingly release the old negative patterns.

9. Take Care of Your Body

Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need in order to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise do you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.

10. Do Mirror Work

Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself while looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents while looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too. At least once a day, say, I love you, I really love you!

11. Love Yourself . . . Do It Now

Don't wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or find the new relationship. Begin now—and do the best you can.

12. Have Fun

Remember the things that gave you joy as a child. Incorporate them into your life now. Find a way to have fun with everything you do. Let yourself express the joy of living. Smile. Laugh. Rejoice, and the Universe rejoices with you!


Career Coaching with Ryerson University

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I am so happy to share that I am officially a coach with Ryerson University through their Chang School of Continuing Education! This means I’ll be working one-on-one with students and build a customized learning plan to meet their career goals. I am part of an amazing network of career coaches who share a depth of knowledge and desire to help Ryerson students reach their full potential. Once the student has successfully demonstrate the skills learned during coaching, they can receive a digital badge to share on LinkedIn profile or resumé.

If you are looking to expand your knowledge and receive credits through a credited university please reach out through Ryerson https://elxchang.blog.ryerson.ca/coaching/

I can’t wait to see what good comes from this!